"If you look for the bad in people expecting to find it,you surely will." Abraham Lincoln
I started out with a nice quote. Stop here as the rest is rambling.
I find that I am constantly looking for the good in people and have found that I get a lateral misconception (no better way to explain this concept). At least that's what it seems to have become for me.
Misconception: mistaken notion.
I am running into the issue of people presenting themselves as who they think they are and I find that they are NOT. Hence, my lateral misconception label because it is that person who actually has the misconception, not me.
This is and has been a very interesting phenomenon for me. I am finding that these misconceptions aren't little issues---they're HUGE!!! What's the deal??? Do you have this problem??? Because believe me it really is a problem. Especially for those of us around the people who have these major misconceptions about themselves.
Those of us that hang out with these people almost have to become a mind reader and I don't know about you, but for me that's IMPOSSIBLE! If you cannot be honest with yourself about who you are then you cannot be honest with others and therein lies my problem.
Case in point: I have a friend that I hang out with on occasion and everything that he states about himself I have to pay attention because usually what he states about himself, the opposite is in fact the truth. Example: he stated that he was not a football fan and yet he made absolutely certain that he was home or near a TV for certain games. In fact, he made it clear on more than one occasion that he had to watch football. It wasn't just one or two games, it was lots. In my mind, this is most definitely a football fan. And can be a major misconception when he has stated that he can take it (meaning football) or leave it, and that is totally NOT the truth. What if I had believed him and made plans during a game that was imperative that he watch??? This could have been a big problem had I believed his actual statement about himself. Sheesh.
Please people...let's not be so stuck on ourselves that we forget to be open to learning, and most especially, learning about ourselves. It really is very helpful if you can do this. I realize that at times this is difficult. Keep in mind that no matter how difficult it may be, if you can get through the pain of certain admissions about your true self, you grow. And that's important.
Just sayin.
Good luck with your learning process about yourself. Grow, Grow, grow.
Good day.